Restorative Justice.

Whether I’m thinking about gun violence and toxic masculinity, politics, relational trauma, I keep coming back to Restorative Justice. I’ve just added some links to my website for those interested in learning more.

Here’s a quote from a recent talk I listened to, by Sujatha Baliga:

“How do we heal through the work? Be thinking about this notion that we are interdependent. Ubuntu was driving force for truth and recon processes in South Africa. I am because we are. A person is a person through other people. it doesn’t mean you can’t also see it in your work litigating. We get to see that in action through RJ processes….we heal together with our clients. we are healing the world together. Think about why are you in this? what’s your skin the game? instead of thinking about helping people outside ourselves. without becoming narcissistic, there is a e’s a way we can be in deeper relationships and community with the people we are working with. and to humble ourselves and say what do i have to learn from this moment. not like they are in a peetree dish, but rather we are in there with them.

How is my own personal healing going to be the gift to the work that I do? And this is true for allies as well, because we all have colonizers mind. all of us. Even those who have benefited from it are being deeply damaged by it. in closing, it’s my sincere hope that through our individual and collective healing, from our shared legacies of genocide slavery colonialism, that we will all be able to embody ubuntu as lawyers and move beyond justice of sides. win lose, towards a justice that heals.” Sujatha Baliga

“Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly. I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be. This is the interrelated structure of reality.” -MLK


Big milestones and social work updates!

I hope all is well by you.

It’s been nearly a year and I wanted to share some exciting updates.

This past Fall I helped organize two interactive art exhibits in cafes in Boston and Dorchester. We raised awareness about domestic violence and invited the community to join us for open mics to culminate the month. It was especially meaningful to create physical spaces for dialogue during the #metoo movement when so many survivors were glued to their screens reading testimony’s from friends, family, and celebrities on the daily.

This Fall I interned in a college counseling center and most recently I began at Mass Mental Health Center’s intensive outpatient DBT program

Also featured in this newsletter:

  • Where am I headed next?
  • New Opportunities


Where Am I Headed?

In August 2018, I graduate from Smith College School for Social Work with my MSW.

As I complete my final internship, I am considering what therapeutic setting I’d like to work in. Right now, I am loving working on an inter-disciplinary team, the emphasis on collaboration, creativity, and group work. I am drinking the DBT kool-aid which is based in mindfulness and grateful for this rich training experience.

If you come across any great opportunities, I hope you’ll keep me in mind! 

Coming Up:

Join me at Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy training in Great Barrington: Feb 17-20. This course is Entry Level Course for all Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy Certificate Programs. Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy is accredited by IAYT and registered with YA.) They are still offering major discounts!

I am continuing to interview amazing leaders on my podcast, Transforming Trauma), and leading volunteers supporting an online community (4k!) of survivors. This Spring, I have been offered the opportunity to coach survivors in this 16-Week Beyond Surviving group program.

Very excited to shout out to my inspiring colleague and creator of Healers of the Wound, promote a conference Friday, March 16th, 10am-3pm. The theme is “Racial Trauma & Healing: Research, Policy & Practice.”  Stay tuned for details.

Happy Winter!

Choosing Love,

Renew Your Spirit: Why Am I Here?

Fewer than 20% of leaders have a strong sense of their own individual purpose.

Clarifying and connecting to your self of yourself as well for your company, energizes and reinvigorates you as you move through change. When you work towards goals that are more meaningful, your drive and stamina increase!


Remember your personal tagline will continue to evolve as you do.

Her purpose:

“Inspire others to see the infinite possibilities in themselves” -Bonnie St. John (



Their purpose:

  • Build and inspire strong relationships to create change in the world.
  • Colorful communicator helping people discover who they are.
  • Lovingly teach the shoeless to fish.
  • Be part of a community.
  • Form of water activate purpose.
  • To give and receive love.
  • To create inspiration to break boundaries. 
  • No BS, myth busting, kid wrangling, news-ninja, kicking ass with humor and compassion.
  • Up and out together and alone.
  • I am fiercely real and will help you be too.
  • Creating true and sustainable community.
  • Assist others to become a beacon of hope.
  • To be a truth teller and cut through the crap.


My Purpose:

First recognize that the things I want most in my life are NOT the hardest. They are achievable!

Two steps that helped me come up with my purpose (for now!):

1. Identify things I have done well:

Organize events, lead groups, case manage, coordinate volunteers & workshops, fundraise, public speaking, marketing, mentor, listen, gather people

2. Things I Enjoy:

Mentorship, public speaking, writing, building relationships, connections, inspiring, holding space & facilitating inclusion/safe spaces, working with young women, helping others speak their truth, find opportunities, navigate difficult transitions, gather friends, being thoughtful and passionate!


My purpose is to live and lead, embodying self-love through writing, speaking, and partnering to design spaces for others to step into their power. 




Career Moves, What’s Next?




Sunday was my 28th birthday. Instead of New Year’s Resolutions I like to reflect on what I’ve learned this past year of my life and consider the year ahead. This past year has been exciting; I’m in a place in my life and career that I wasn’t a year ago, and I wanted to share with you all some of the challenges and triumpths I’ve discovered along the way. I also want to share some goals for the upcoming 12 months that I can use help holding myself accountable for.

Sometimes we try to ignore our bodies and minds, despite clear signals communicating that something needs to change. For me, this reality was born from my learning to prioritize myself better and recognize my needs. 

Healing is valuable work. It is draining – emotionally and financially. My creativity and conviction and belief in full recovery has given me hope and inspired others to keep swimming.  For the first time in my life I became my own best advocate, I was and am on a mission. I pushed through the fears that I should just be grateful and accept myself and my life as it is. Ignore pressures to compartmentalize, repress, dissociate and “move on.” It makes others uncomfortable at times and they seem to have lost hope and think you are giving in to your past. DON’T listen to them! Healing is not linear, and these past few months have taught me so much that I would never have believed just a year ago. 

I am forever thankful for my tribe who continues to believe in me and remind me of my strength when I waver.




A fellow social worker entrepreneur, Nicole Clark, writes:

“It’s always been said that when you make a decision to play big, the Universe will rearrange itself to bring in people and opportunities that will get you closer to your dreams. When you have a big enough WHY, the HOW will always present itself.”

I am proud of how far I’ve come since I first put myself out there consulting and coaching in 2012. I remember the Omega Women’s Leadership (Omega Women’s Leadership Center) Intensive that was my launching ground. This growing circle of women who believe in their power and what it means to share power, continue to inspire me. This summer I have the chance to give back to the OWLC and I can’t wait-stay tuned for details! 

Beginning in July 2016, I began hosting a podcast called Transforming Trauma. I still have a lot to learn, but I am proud of and excited by this new opportunity to break the silence. In April 2017, I was offered the opportunity to do be in a direct service role with the coaching business I was contracted for marketing and consulting these past few years. I’m officially facilitating a monthly virtual support groups for adult survivors of physical, sexual, and/or emotional child abuse or neglect, bringing them together within a nurturing and supportive community. This past month, 17 survivors joined the call from around the world-one person calling in from across the world! In the Fall of 2017, in addition to completing the last leg of my Masters in Clinical Social Work @ Smith College (at a college counseling center!), I will be be providing one-on-one coaching to support survivors going through the Beyond Surviving Group virtual program.

This Spring, I’ve been developing a program for Volunteer Facebook moderators who will help maintain a safe space for survivors who seek support in the “Healing from Sexual Abuse” Facebook Community. I’m interested in how people can learn to utilize social media as a rich resource while still protecting themselves from triggers and traumatic experiences. I continue to be amazed at the ways that technology intersect with social work/therapy and how we can leverage online resources and apps to meet people where they are at in their healing. 

Finally, these past several months, I have begun collaborating with various local organizations like Beth Israel’s Center for Violence Prevention & Recovery, Survivor Theater Project, Incest Resources, Cambridge Women’s Center to design more services and spaces to support survivors. I am so energized by this work and am working on creating a scaleable web platform that will be a resource for survivors everywhere (contact me if you’re interested in getting involved.) I’d LOVE to hear from you!



Action Oriented Thoughts/Feelings Oriented


Inquiry Listening
Accountability Reflecting
Requests Confronting
Goal-setting Interpreting
Strategic Planning Diagnosing
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special time and place

What are some of my career goals that I want to achieve by my 29th birthday?

Well, I have a few:

  • Complete my college counseling internship.
  • Complete an independent research study with Smith Social Work faculty who have similar research interests. 
  • Chart a strategic plan for the open-source web platform I am creating to facilitate resource sharing and connections for the survivor community in the Greater Boston area.
  • Complete Level 2 of Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy training (apply for a mini-grant to make this happen!) 
  • Continue my meditation practice and meeting monthly with KM group. Go on an extended retreat.
  • Cultivate multiple (and sustaining) streams of income (by way of speaking engagements, writing, coaching, and consulting.
  • Share a story at a Live Moth Event.

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Of course, these will change slightly or significantly. The accountability of writing them out should help keep me focused. Feel free to ask me how I’m doing! 

Jack Canfield says:

“The quickest way to hit a target is to fire, see where the bullet landed, and then adjust your aim accordingly. If the hit was 2 inches above the target, lower your aim a little. Fire again. See where it is now. Keep firing and keep readjusting. Soon you are hitting the bull’s-eye. The same is true for anything.”

Despite how scary and challenging the world can be, today I feel more hopeful than I’ve ever felt. I feel creative and energized and connected and surrounded by incredible friends and colleagues.

I wish ease and abundance for every human in my life and around the world.

Change. Hope. Possibility.


In Strength & Power,



*Self-Care & Sustainability: Why Healing is Valuable Work was first printed on Rest for Resistance Read more of Shivani’s writing at @shivaniseth05

When I was 12…


When I was 12 I thought I was the only one in the world with an auto-immune disease, at least one that couldn’t be pronounced or spelled. Generalized subcutaneous morphea or eosinophilic fasciitis. Always wondered about my leopard skin? You might not want to google it. My brave parents. My fearless, naive little me.

Now that I’ve lived more than half my life with the condition and its residual scarring, I can see how incredibly lucky I was to have insurance and advocates. My life mattered because I had access to privilege.

#affordablehealthcare #iamapreexistingcondition

As far as anyone could tell I was a healthy 12 year old when I suddenly couldn’t shoot a basketball or sit cross-legged or try on a dress. Putting my socks on became a struggle. I remember waking up early to get blood work every month. I remember almost getting used to my brother (my personal EMT) giving me shots every Tuesday and Thursday at our house and when he left home, my dad would practice on an orange and tried his best, but it always hurt, despite how hard I hid my face in the pillow.

My parents drove me to various hospitals, consulting with doctors who gave me different diagnosis and treatment regimes, some more aggressive than others. At the time, I couldn’t comprehend that the rare auto-immune condition could be terminal. My parents made a binder with my face on it and devoted much of their life during this period to researching and driving me to physical and occupational therapy, and so much more. I can’t imagine the fear and pain they experienced watching the illness spread through my body. Fortunately, after a series of scary tests, we learned that I didn’t have the type that would impact my organs. Still, the disease spread across my body to forever impact my joints and skin.

I remember my mom distracting me with puppets when I had to get a scary skin biopsy on my arm and hip. They described it to me like a cookie cutter as if that would put my terrified heart at ease.

I remember my parents waking me up in the middle of the night to numb my arm because I hated more than anything, getting my blood work done. Even though the cream didn’t do anything, it made me feel better and they entertained my attachment to the cream + numbing with ice before anyone (shout out to the one and only phlebotomist I ever loved, Ed) came near me with a needle. So in the middle of the night, they’d prepare my arm with cream and saran wrap. They took me for PUVA light treatments and advocated for me in school.

Like many girls, especially those who have experienced any kind of trauma, and all humans really, I was not taught to love my body. Being at war with your body kills your spirit. I can’t remember how my body felt before my cells started attacking me. Ever since then I’ve been in conversation, often fights, trying to remind my body it’s okay, we’re safe, you’re home now. You are an amazing, powerful force. #thebodykeepscore #whenthebodysaysno #gabormate#besselvanderkolk #somaticexperiencing


Post-Traumatic Growth: Transforming Pain into Power


IMG_0271.jpgI believe in the power of vulnerability and this means sharing my truth on  social media which is sometimes a scarily distorted version of reality. I feel inspired to share in hopes that it reaches someone needing a boost of self-compassion. You are not alone.

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If you’re human like me, you probably get lost in old stories about who you are. I like to remind myself on an annual basis, especially when critical voices of the past pay me a visit. This happens all the time! For instance, two people’s whose opinions I wish I didn’t care about have recently made comments that have made me feel very small and unworthy. My first response was to feel misunderstood and hurt. But now, I’ll take a moment to reflect on who I actually am and want to be. What I know about myself and how I treat myself matters most and maybe I won’t choose to be around them or discuss certain topics.

I’m obsessed with babies, quotes, puppies, ice-cream and chocolate. I’m a good listener. I can be fearless. I am open-minded. I love learning. I don’t shy away from challenging people and being challenged. I am beautiful because of my presence and spirit. Because of my intensity. Because I am thoughtful and resilient. I am dependable. I am adventurous. I can be clumsy. I love travel, hiking, playing soccer/basketball, hosting dinner parties, spending quality time with loved ones (especially my niece & nephew). I am curious & chatty. I am a seeker. I am creative. I am silly. I love flash mobs and karaoke. I am a loving & generous daughter, sister, Aunt, and friend. I am a survivor.


Bolstered by the privileged parts of my life, which are never more apparent than when shit hits the fan, I feel fortunate to identify post-traumatic-growth despite surviving various violent experiences. Even though I have developed positive ways to cope with trauma, over the years the impact of it has affected my education, housing, work, and my health as is so often the case. As many survivors have stated, the aftermath of trauma is often more painful than the event itself, shared most recently by a survivor of rape quoted by Sheryl Sandberg in her new book: Option BEven though I been working to help others in their healing for a over a decade, I’m still learning how to ask for help. IT’S HARD! Trauma makes you feel helpless. It is confusing and paralyzing. It makes you doubt yourself. Plus, I was raised by someone who equates asking for help with weakness and incompetence.


What I want to tell you, fellow survivors, is to reach out & ask for help. People will show up. In fact, people LIKE helping. You are loved and there are people in your life and people you don’t know even know who would be honored to be there. When people make you feel small, let them project their shit onto you, but don’t give them your power. They are too consumed with themselves and their own image to see or hear you. (Shout out to my dear friend, Hope!) Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you. Find the people who can cheer you on as you grow stronger and do the courageous work of healing. 


These past few months have been difficult & triggering for me personally, to say the least. What’s helped fuel me, in addition to ramping up the “self-care,” having good boundaries and supports, are the encouraging messages (excerpted below) I’ve received in response to my survivor advocacy work (podcasts, workshops, social media campaign). Note to Self: Use your voice! Do what you Love! Share what’s on your mind! 


Introducing Voices Raised in Power @ The Fred in college.

I am sharing these words because I am moved, inspired and emboldened by the badass, brave survivors I connect with every day. Whether I’m leading a therapeutic group or getting my hair cut or my car repaired, I hear your hopefulness and strength in how you live your lives. I see your pain, your grief, your loss. You are so beautiful and brave. 


Ubuntu, originating in South Africa, means that a person is a person through another person, that my humanity is caught up, bound up, inextricably, with yours. You are me and I am you. I am you and you are me.

These are my wishes for myself and for you, and for beings everywhere: I deserve to be at home in my body and mind. I am worthy. I am forgivable. I am enough. I am safe. I am loved. I am powerful. I am allowed to make mistakes. Healing is not linear. 


At a rally shouting.

Thank you for the encouragement to keep sharing and doing what I love. I am lucky to have such a powerful community of colleagues, survivors, friends and family. Thank you for the laughs, invitations, blog comments, texts, calls, cards, visits. The most difficult experiences of our lives seem to clarify what matters most.


Facilitating a therapeutic writing workshop for survivors about self-compassion

“You created a remarkable healing opportunity on Saturday with your facilitating of the Healing Through Creative Arts workshop. I looked around the room to see the wide range of participants and appreciated how skillfully you affirmed our shared purpose of healing from sexual trauma.  When you stated it simply and clearly I felt you ground all of us in the courage of that common intention.  Then the tone you set of respect, generosity, loving kindness, honesty and nonjudgmental acceptance gave us all permission to write with honesty and vulnerability.   This tone combined with your thoughtfully sequenced guidelines and prompts created an afternoon filled with beautiful moments of support, appreciation and powerful writing.”
“i saw your post about sexual assault awareness month. i’ve thought so many times about the speech you gave i guess like 8 or 9 years ago now…and i’ve wanted to go back and read it again. i was wondering if you have a blog online or something. thanks again for sharing. It made an impact on me and i was very proud of you.”

Great resources, thanks for sharing.  This gives greater awareness to the global phenomenon of sexual abuse as New Zealand has a high proportion of victims compared to most developed countries.  It was encouraging to see the openness and willingness to speak on this topic as it is very taboo here in New Zealand still and met with great resistance.”

“You just have a very profound way of being so real and sharing. You have so much to offer.”

Thank you Jocelyn for sharing your podcasts with me. I listened today. I appreciated all the different information shared and definitely could relate with all the topics mentioned. What touched me most was hearing your heart and experience and voice of care for other survivors. I heard your voice of your own divinity coming through within it and it was beautiful and touching. Thank you again for sharing so many resources and your experience and well wishes for all. The birds are singing here. Such beautiful nectar :)”



@ Vessel Van Der Kolk’s incredible Trauma Center enjoying some healing energy.

   If you or someone you love would like help connecting with local resources and services to begin or continue your healing, please don’t hesitate to reach out! 



When life happens while we’re busy making other plans.

Do Power Differently.

April is Sexual Assault Awareness & Prevention Month, and I’m coming up on a whole decade of advocacy work. Time flies!

This past weekend I led a healing arts writing workshop for survivors on the topic of self-compassion. The turnout out was triple the size as previous workshops. It was a gift to be among such resilient humans to honor the courage and strength of survivors.

Also featured in this newsletter:

  • Where have I been for TWO years?!
  • Call for support!
  • Highlights & Opportunities to share


Where Have I Been?
Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans. I last shared an update in May 2015 as I completed half my MSW at Smith College. After a series of challenging events, I decided to take time off from school and found a life-changing opportunity to work as the Career Coordinator at Project Place in the South End of Boston.

Read more about my year working with the homeless.

This Fall, I will embark on the final leg of my program at Smith. Next stop: Lasell College Counseling Center in Newton, MA!


Call for Support! Work with Jocelyn:

Today, I am reaching out to my community to help me identify part-time admin, project/event-based opportunities. I’d be happy to share my resume if you think you may know of any leads! Thank you for keeping me in mind. 

“You created a remarkable healing opportunity on Saturday with your facilitating of the Healing Through Creative Arts workshop. I looked around the room to see the wide range of participants and appreciated how skillfully you affirmed our shared purpose of healing from sexual trauma.  When you stated it simply and clearly I felt you ground all of us in the courage of that common intention.  Then the tone you set of respect, generosity, loving kindness, honesty and nonjudgmental acceptance gave us all permission to write with honesty and vulnerability.   This tone combined with your thoughtfully sequenced guidelines and prompts created an afternoon filled with beautiful moments of support, appreciation and powerful writing.”
-Healing Arts Workshop Coordinator, Survivor Theater Workshop & Teacher

Read more about my services, and let me know how we can work together.

Highlights & Opportunities
As I near my 28th birthday, I am excited to share a few highlights from the past two years and share resources I’ve discovered along the way.

-Led workshops sponsored by the Survivor Theatre Workshop for survivors of trauma at the Cambridge Women Center.
-Led workshops at Project Place on topics ranging from public speaking to meditation and life skills.
-Participated in self-defense and assertiveness training through Impact Boston
-Received a scholarship to attend my first American Group Psychotherapy Associationconference
-Reconnected with colleagues at the MASOC’s annual conference
-Sat my first week long silent retreat at the Insight Meditation Society in Barre, MA
-Completed Level 1 Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy training
-Met Rachel Grant (see picture below!) in-person on a beach in CA after several years working together remotely.
-Completed psycho-analytic courses at MIP & BIPSI (Play Therapy, Psychoanalytic Perspectives on Infidelity, Dimensions of Gender and Sexuality, Basic Concepts).

Coming Up:

After producing podcasts (Transforming Trauma) and social media content for the past 1-2 years, I’m transitioning into a direct service role with my colleague Rachel Grant. We are offering a free virtual support group for Adult Survivor of Child Abuse, Additionally, the next Beyond Surviving Group begins in June.  If you can think of anyone that might be interested, please let me know. I’ll be happy to send along more info!

Join me at the Omega Institute: Women & Power Retreat: Do Power Differently: OCTOBER 6-8th 2017. They are still be accepting scholarship apps, apply now!
Poet Sylvia Plath says we should wear our heart on our skin in this life. My love and appreciation for this work and my community that supports and inspires me, makes this easy!

Happy Spring!

Choosing Love,

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Have you made difficult choices that have changed the course of your career? I’d love to hear what’s going on in your corner of the world!