February 2014 Newsletter: What’s On My Plate

Did anyone else have to dig out their cars with their bare hands & a mini snow brush? It was that kind of month! This week I attended a 2-day training called Beyond Trauma with Stephanie Covington at the Women’s Consortium in Hamen. I had the amazing honor of presenting at the Boys & Girls Club on Career Success & Asking for Help; Greens Farms Academy’s on Body Image & Eating Disorders.

You can listen to a recording of my 1 hour fundraising webinar training here: Advocates for Youth on Building Relationships, Making the Ask.

Read my post on My Recipe for Confidence, inspired by the students I’ve been working with. I’m also leading a social media campaign called Embrace Yourselfie to help people who are learning to love & accept their bodies. Please be in touch if you’re interested in joining us (nearly 200 strong!)

I’ve enthusiastically accepted an internship at the CT Nonprofit Association to learn more about policy and nonprofit management. Last but not least, I’ve received a Dean Merit Scholarship to Smith School of Social Work. Thank you to all my mentors and friends who helped me navigate difficult some decisions these past few weeks and supported me through the application process. As always, please let me know if I can ever be a resource for you and your friends/family.

Here are 3 networking tips :

  • Put reminders in your calendar to follow up with people so the ball is always in your court!
  • Utilize Boomerang so e-mails bounce back to you if there is no response in a set amount of days.
  • Label business cards with personal notes to remind you of your conversations. This will help with follow up!

What’s on the horizon?

  • Leading a fundraising campaign for the NEARI School in MA. This school provides high quality education and treatment services to at risk children and youth.
  • Planning the Center for Family Justice’s Walk a Mile in Her Shoes event (May 3rd in Fairfield, CT).
  • Coaching and speaking engagement (see website for topics)
  • Looking for opportunities to facilitate VOICES program of empowerment and self-discovery for girls
  • Mentoring girls at LISA Inc. (Living in Safer Alternatives), a residential program for foster care youth

Jocelyn’s Empowerment Series Interview with Aspiring Healer, Des Dabice

Watch this 9 minute clip to learn about Des’ Journey Towards Empowerment!
She shares wisdom that will give you the chills and inspire you to love yourself and what you do with your life.

1. Hardships help develop compassion & connection
2. Genuinely listen & engage or do something you love to center yourself
3. Hardship helps you connect better with others. It’s a gift.
4. Instead of retreating, open up! You’re not the only one.

JOCELYN’S Recipe for Confidence

I recently led a workshop for a group of high school Peer Educators on the subject of body-image and eating disorders. At the end, the Faculty Advisor, asked me to share my ingredients for having confidence. 
                                 Ready in: 
                                 1 Lifetime of Loving Yourself
1/2 Tablespoon of Health Imitation
3 Cups of Zest
1/4 Teaspoon of Style

1/2 Tablespoon of Healthy Imitation
1) It’s human to compare yourself to others… but think critically about WHO you want to compare yourself to: Who do you find beautiful in whatever way you define beauty? Who do you find interesting and inspiring? Who do you want to emulate?
These questions can also be a technique for combating anxiety in social situations. You can think of that person who you admire, and imagine how she/he would react in the same situation. Channel their energy, and you will feel more confident navigating whatever struggle you’re working through.This example is an incredible story of a mother who raised her daughter to do just this! 
3 Cups of Zest
2) Find your passion. When you can connect what you care about with what you dedicate your time to by aligning your heart and your actions, you exude confidence. 
In the past 4 months since I started my coaching business, I’ve transformed into a more confident person. I experience gatherings with family and friends with a newfound zest. My public speaking skills have dramatically improved. I feel happier and more excited about my future than ever. I’ve noticed that I’ve been taking more risks and putting myself out there more on social media. As a result, I’m connecting with more people who are excited to engage with the material I am sharing. 
1/4 teaspoon of style
3) Discover your unique style. It takes effort in this world to care about things that aren’t trendy. I couldn’t have said it better than the high school girl who shared this:
“I was talking to one of my guy friends about what kind of style he finds most attractive and he said ‘It doesn’t matter what a girl wears, just if she feels she can pull it off by having confidence.” 
In my teens years, I struggled with my body-image and hated to reveal my skin discoloration from the auto immune disease I was diagnosed with at the age of 12. To this day, my skin appears scared, bruised, or dirty. I used to try covering my skin with make up.  Other times, I covered myself in sweats and scarves despite the warm weather. It took hard work on learning to love myself and lots of encouragement from others for me to finally embrace how I look and to realize that beauty is equivalent to how I feel about myself. 
Confidence isn’t about being trendy or looking like everyone else.
Confidence is how you feel when you look in the mirror and smile.
You are beautiful and any magazine, TV program, or person who makes you feel otherwise has no place in your life.